Are you better-off living a happy life? This is one question that probably might surprise anyone especially when you are not anticipating it.
I was updating a close friend about what was going on with my life. I was not even half-way through my talk when he interjected, “Are you happy?” I was taken aback and my human brain processed quickly to assess whether or not I am happy with my life.
Well, yes, I am living a happy life. It’s just that I wasn’t prepared to be confronted with that question because it is my view and notion that all we do in life is directed towards happiness. There could be many and more reasons but I would like to share six reasons to live a happy life.
1. Always look at the brighter side
The popular Dr. Norman Vincent Peale labeled this as “positive thinking”. While there is the negative side of things, we are not supposed to give first and primary importance to it if we wanted to be happy. There is great advantage when you view things primarily on the positive side of things rather than the opposite. Of course in many life situations, you cannot avoid seeing and experiencing the adverse and the negative but diverting and focusing on the brighter side of life would allow you to see alternatives. Soon you will find yourself awash in joy and happiness because the brighter side has always the solution to your problem.
2. Take time to make others happy
“And the way to be happy is to make others happy and to have a little heaven down here” so goes the lyrics of our favorite fellowship chorus, “A Time to be Happy”. There is no substitute to feelings of joy and contentment when you have caused someone to be happy. Acts of kindness may be given through a song, poem, Bible verse, words of encouragement, pat of sympathy, piece of advice, prayers, food treat, and maybe your mere presence.
3. Find joy in simple things
Have you experienced being troubled then you decided to go strolling along the beach barefooted and enjoying whatever things you may find along the way? I can’t explain it but I always find tranquility listening to the surf and watching the sea.
I still can remember how I enjoyed throwing pebbles on a still pond and see it skipped on the water surface as many as your strength would allow it. Perhaps, you might want to go back a bit and find happiness in rediscovering the child in you.
4. Focus on your mission
Oftentimes, lots of obstacles would easily waylay us and we tend to give up when the going gets rough. Focusing on your mission in life, following the roadmap that you charted to achieve it would keep you organized and confident as you pursue and realize the vocation that you were called to do. What would seem as pockets of failures would eventually end up as ladders of success when you work at achieving your mission.
5. Be a genuine person
There is real happiness in being a real person. You can never find happiness when you are not true to yourself and you are just pretending. There are people who are good at wearing a mask for they fear that their true selves will be rejected. People who are lost in their pretensions would someday find themselves alone, friendless, and rejected. I believe that those who are most honest about themselves are the happiest people on earth. They have all the freedom to be who they are and they don’t live to please other people.
6. Give your dream a chance
The sweltering summer noon day heat is causing me to dream that I am travelling across the ocean and spending time somewhere in a Caribbean villa either in the Bahamas or Cayman Island. Just by sharing this with you, I am giving this dream a chance. Who knows, by chance, a resort owner might read this blog and give me a free round trip ticket to stay in one of his best villas in the Caribbean Islands?
Most of us never give our dream a chance because we always think that they are so lofty and unattainable. We are afraid that it would bring frustration to us and would make us sad.
Well, why don’t you take joy in dreaming something and giving it a chance by just expressing it, praying for it, and perhaps working hard for it? Nurturing a dream and seeing how things and events are unfolding before you and all these are leading towards the realization of your dream, are all enjoying and exciting.
Don’t be life's greatest loser and be weak and sad. Instead, find reasons to live a happy life. Start with the six reasons listed here and I assure you that you will be better-off.